Beyond the Myth of Self-Love
Q&A Series with Aaravindha
Question: What is Self-Love?
“Could you please share your thoughts on self-love? I feel that self-love, as an expression of our higher self, also requires unconditional love for the ego self, which often carries patterns like "I’m not good enough.". While I believe in our immense inner power and the freedom it offers, I sometimes find myself held back by fear of responsibility and distractions. How can I transcend these barriers and fully embrace my purpose in helping bring about the change toward our true nature?”
Aaravindha’s Answer:
Self-love is often misunderstood as simply accepting who we think we are. Yet, authentic self-love isn't about our identity or liking ourselves; it's deeper than that. This misunderstanding comes from the ego, which tricks us into comparing ourselves as better or worse, lighter or darker, good or evil, and so forth. Such judgments create a false self-identity that is most often limited, partial, and misleading. True self-love isn't about who we are but how freely we express our Divine nature.
True self-love isn't about who we are but how freely we express our Divine nature.
Our true essence resembles a flowing river—ever-changing and dynamic—rather than a static identity. When we fixate on ourselves in a self-centered way, we risk losing touch with genuine love. This often leads us to despair or to an endless search for outside approval, which will never satisfactorily fulfill us. We can fall into the trap of labeling ourselves—"I am this or that"—whether those labels are positive or negative. Instead, embracing innocence, humility, and sincerity brings us closer to self-love. By expressing gratitude and releasing our rigid identities and the false beliefs tied to them, we open ourselves to our natural love. Although our thoughts focused on who we think we are may offer a temporary convenience, they cannot truly define us. Limits imposed by such thoughts will always fall short.
True love emerges from a Divine source, an expression of the Divine Will. Our psyche may momentarily grasp this love but cannot possess it. The linear mind telling us we are unlimited beings is like a blind man or woman watching a movie; it can only make guesses and cannot fully comprehend the immense love that we indeed are.
Only by surrendering our mental constructs to a sincere service for the One True Will can we allow the true light of love to shine through. When this surrender occurs, we awaken from the illusion of separation and discover the ability to soar, with love acting as the wind beneath our wings.
© Aaravindha Himadra
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